Children from violent homes learn to believe that: It’s acceptable for men to hit women; Violence is the way to get what you Violence is the way to get what you want; Big people have power they misuse; Big people have power they misuse; Men are bullies who push women Men are bullies who push women and children around; Expression of feeling signifies weakness; They shouldn’t talk about violence; They shouldn’t trust; and they shouldn’t feel. Children, regardless of whether they have experienced abuse directly, are affected by violence in the home.