DEAR ABBY: For nearly three years, I have been seeing a man who later asked me to move in with him. He abruptly stopped emailing me four months ago. I waited several weeks and then emailed him, telling him how upset and hurt I was and asking what was going on. I found out - not from him that he has been in a relationship with another woman for the last five years. I am furious! I am at a loss about what I should do. -- SHATTERED IN OREGON